When the two of us got married (to our husbands, not to each other…), we never thought we’d have to date again.
Boy were we ever wrong!
Finding a new mom friend is just like dating. It’s Tinder minus the swiping.
First, you have to assess if they’re your brand. Do they look like they could be a good fit for you?
Then, you have to determine (aka stress the eff out about) who will make the first move.
One of you finally initiates conversation, and you vet each other with an awkward game of 20 questions to find out if you’re compatible (Where do you live? Where are you from? What do you do?).
JUST. LIKE. DATING.
Next, you sit back and watch. You take it all in. You observe they way they act and speak to others, and you find out if they handle situations the same way you do.
If you feel like it’s a match, like you’ve hit it off and you don’t want to let this one go, you ask to meet again. You get a phone number and try to organize a group thing so it doesn’t seem too intense.
You send them a Facebook friend request. Perve their mutual friends. You check their LinkedIn profile and Instagram feed, because you need a whole picture of who this person is that you’re about to let into your life.
You wait to see how quick they accept your friend request, follow you back, return your text, and you freak your freak if it’s been longer than you hoped. You start planning your next move before they’ve even made theirs yet.
Somehow everything works out. Things are going well. This is really happening. But…what’s next??
You wonder if you take relationship to next level. Should you go for dinner just the two of you, without the kids? Should you introduce husbands? Is this a real friend or just a park friend?
AHHH. The struggle.
All we can guarantee is that you won’t know until you try. Put yourself out there, say hi, be kind to other moms, start conversations, share a laugh. You may end up finding your mom mate, your mom soul mate, your Cat to your Nat. And that, friends, makes the whole “dating” thing so worth it!!
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